According to this research-based theory, self-change often fails because we set unrealistic expectations. Suppose a person approaches a new year resolving to lose fifty pounds in the first ten weeks, to go to the fitness club every morning before work, or to pray and study the Bible for an hour each day. Each of these is likely to fail because these resolutions are too ambitious and unrealistic. Initially, there is a strong commitment to change, and the person feels in control of the process. Often,
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